Wrapping Up Lupus Awareness Month

To everyone who
 
changed their profile pics to help spread the word,
read our blogs, status updates, tweets,
liked and shared our posts and pics,
wore purple and told the world why,
said words of prayer for us and words of encouragement to us,

On behalf of those who have lupus and are affected by it,

THANK YOU.

As things are wrapping up this month,
I have a few more requests:

Don't forget.
Don't stop spreading the word.
Don't stop praying and giving and loving.
Don't stop believing that your small acts are impacting the world.

Purple Shmurple

Purple is not my favorite color. In fact, I despise purple so much that I would pick pink--which I often claim is my least favorite color--over purple any day. I don't really have a good reason for my strong dislike of the color purple. I think I was just born this way.

...Then I got lupus. Purple is the color for lupus awareness. When I'm having a lupus flare, I have a bracelet that I wear to encourage me throughout the day. It's purple (of course), has a butterfly charm (butterflies are a lupus symbol because of a butterfly-shaped rash many lupus patients have on their face), and says the word "BRAVE" to remind me to be brave even in times when I feel weak or afraid. When I wear it, my husband knows that I'm having an extra hard day, that I will need some extra encouragement, and I will probably struggle to accomplish simple tasks. (If you come over my house when I'm wearing my lupus bracelet, expect to walk into a mess.)

For Lupus Awareness Month, my life is covered in purple: purple wardrobe, purple jewelry, purple profile pics, purple pens...A lot of purple. I believe so much about lupus awareness (see why here) that I am actually excited to don my least favorite color for the cause.

On Friday, May 16, 2014, the Lupus Foundation of America is doing a Put On Purple campaign. It's easy to participate. Here's what you do:

1. Put on purple.
2. Tell people why.

To help spread the word even farther, take a pic and post it on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and whatever other social media you like. This will give you a chance to take a selfie for a great cause! (How often do we get to say that our selfies change the world?)

This Friday, I'll be wearing purple for lupus awareness, for myself, and for all the people who are impacted by lupus. Who's with me?

Click Away for Lupus Awareness

I love the internet. I also hate the internet. Google the word "lupus" and you are sure to find a myriad of stuff that is possibly (probably) untrue, outdated, infuriating, discouraging...Who has time for all that? There are a lot of wonderful resources out there, but it can take a while to separate the good from the bad. So after a year and a half of having lupus, what are my top go-tos?

1. My go-to lupus website: Lupus.org
When the doctors started mentioning lupus to me and I was overwhelmed with questions, the Lupus Foundation of America had answers. Everyday thousands of people worldwide visit the Lupus Foundation's website because of their wealth of up-to-date information. This, in my opinion, is the place to start and keep coming back to. This year, for Lupus Awareness Month, they're emphasizing taking action. You can learn more here.

2. My second go-to lupus website: LupusCheck.com
Lupus is not the same for everyone. so the key to effective treatment and care is the patient's ability to listen to their body and share what they're experiencing. This can be a lot harder than you would think. LupusCheck.com has downloadable resources to help lupus patients keep track of their symptoms and effectively communicate them with their families, caregivers, and doctors.

3. My go-to lupus reference book: The Lupus Book, by Daniel J. Wallace, MD 
This book is quite technical (not the type of book you take to the beach), but really helpful for understanding what is happening in your body. Reading this helped me to be able to communicate with my doctors better (and even helped me and my rheumatologist discover that I also have Sjogren's syndrome).

4. My go-to lupus blog: Despite Lupus 
This blog by Sara Gorman is my go-to when I need some lupus inspiration or advice from a "layman." She reveals her struggles, victories, and very practical advice on how to live a full life with lupus without being too touchy-feely. Unlike many blogs or books I have read, she is not angry, jaded, or in despair. She is a proactive entrepreneur who refuses to let lupus keep her down. She sells fashionable pillbags that are designed to help lupus patients easily carry, organize, and take their many medications. (I never leave the house without mine.) She even wrote a couple of books--I highly recommend--to help lupus patients, family members, and even children of lupus patients understand and navigate daily life with this disease.

Bonus: If you're a fan of Pinterest, there are a lot of lupus boards. You can see mine here. 

Confessions of a Former Superhero

I used to be a superhero. Or at least I acted like I was. I was unstoppable. I could do it all.

When I was diagnosed with lupus, I knew my life would dramatically change and everything would get harder. But I never imagined how hard "harder" would actually be. 

A recent statistic from the Lupus Foundation says that only 31 percent of adults with lupus work full time. Within the lupus community, I am in the minority.

I'm a full-time pianist. Between performing, accompanying, teaching, and long hours of practicing, my life is busy. Lupus has kept me from performing and working as much as I would like, but I beat the odds every time I do.

It's a lot of work to beat the odds. Most people who see me, even those I work with closely, have no idea what kind of pain I'm experiencing that day. There are some mornings when I wake up and ask my husband to help me get out of bed because my body is too stiff for me to do it myself. There are some days when independence isn't an option. I have to budget meticulously--not just time and money--things like energy and joint usage. There are some evenings when I'm so exhausted that I crash on the couch and take a nap so I have the strength to brush my teeth and go to bed. One fulfilling day of work can mean a week of pain and fatigue. 

For me, beating the odds means not letting my body and how I feel at any given moment have the final say for my destiny. It means everyday trusting God to help me face another day full of impossibilities. Beating the odds is hard. Really hard.

I confess that I'm not a superhero, but maybe that's ok. Maybe that's not what the world needs. Maybe the world needs people who, even though they're struggling, can be thankful for every good day. People who use the strength they have, even if it's not much, to live for something great and meaningful. People who, despite all the darkness in the world, can still live with faith, hope, and love, and leave a path for others to do the same. Maybe I like not being a superhero after all.

Why Lupus Awareness Matters (even if you don't have lupus)

I have lupus. Lupus awareness matters to me. But if you don't have lupus, why should it matter to you?

Lupus can take years (even decades) to diagnose. The period of waiting can be extremely painful and discouraging. The more we learn about lupus, the more efficiently the doctors will be able to correctly diagnose it, the more we can help those who suffer from it, and the closer we will be to finding a cure.

I didn't realize there was something seriously wrong with me until a few months prior to being diagnosed. Looking back, I had numerous warning signs for years: joint pain, extreme sensitivity to the sun, severe skin problems, fatigue... I had no idea there was an underlying cause for all of this. And lupus was nowhere on my radar. How I wish I would have known that my stressful lifestyle was making it worse, that exercising more wouldn't make me more energetic, that rest and "sleeping it off" wasn't enough to ease my pain. How I wish someone would have seen the signs and suggested that I get tested. How I wish I wouldn't have waited to get tested until I was in so much pain that I couldn't walk on my own and I lost a third of my hair. How I wish my husband and I weren't absolutely clueless when the diagnosis came. If only I had known.

Don't get me wrong. As hard as my life is, I do love it. I am blessed to still be able to work and pursue my dreams. But there are many people with lupus who are hurting in a different way. There are many who are angry, lonely, and in need of hope. 

You never know what may happen to you or someone you love. You never know who you may encounter. You never know what kind of opportunities you will have to be a light and help others.

This is why lupus awareness matters.

If you would like to help spread the word, check out the Lupus Foundation of America's website for a list of ideas.